<![CDATA[Always A King - Follow My Heart]]>Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:19:32 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Before I had you]]>Sat, 17 Oct 2015 15:41:55 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/before-i-had-youBaby Hays, tomorrow you will be three months old. Just where did the time go?

I had all these plans to write to you from the day you were born to tell you just exactly how I felt during every experience with you. The truth is, you kept me busy from day one, and even when I had a moment to myself in which I could have sat down to write, I was too busy cherishing your sweet baby cheeks, your beautiful brown eyes, your sleepy little yawn, your goofy gummy grin and your peaceful dreamy face. I didn't want to waste the time away from watching you grow and learn and discover the world around you.

As I sit here with you peacefully asleep on my lap, I can't help but think about all the memories I have experienced in just these three short months. And as I slowly get ready to go back to work part-time, I can't help but think about the little things I have learned about you that I am sad I will miss during my time away.

Before I had you, I had no idea how my life was going to change. I have already experienced so much, and have already had some pretty big adventures.

Before I had you, I wanted to see the world.

I spent time traveling to places that some can only dream, which made me feel alive. I've been to the Big Apple, to the top of the Empire State Building, and even Lady Liberty's island, and I even stood at Ground Zero.

I've seen the Eiffel Tower light up at night and even stood on the top. I've been to the highest point in Paris, Montmarte, and even ate escargot. I've marveled at Notre Dame, discovered The Louvre and walked under the Arc de Triomphe.

I've seen Big Ben and Parliament from the London Eye, walked across the London bridges, checked out Shakespeare's Globe theater, and even hung out where the Queen lives. In fact, I even watched as the president of the United States rolled in to visit her.

I've dipped my toes in the Mediterranean Sea from Barcelona, celebrated the UEFA Champions League champions as we welcomed them back in their homecoming parade.

I've witnessed history attending the 2009 Presidential Inauguration in Washington D.C. and as a matter of fact, I was completely alone in a sea of millions of people.

I've experienced altitude sickness from the Rocky Mountains of Colorado, swam in the warm Hawaiian ocean in the middle of a rainstorm, chased ghost crabs at night on the outer banks, done cartwheels on the beach of the Gulf of Mexico, and made a difference in children's lives down south in Memphis. 

I've gambled away my money in Vegas, experienced a true 21-run, lived and learned by becoming both a Coug AND a Husky, and thought my Summa Cum Laude accomplishment was actually something to be proud of.

But nothing beats the adventures I will share with you, and nothing will teach me more than you.


Before I had you, I didn't know what it was like to pull over on the side of the road multiple times before reaching my destination, just to find a binky. I didn't know what it was like to get the bath water ready at 3:30am or dance in the shower just to soothe the tears. I never before searched everywhere in a store trying to find your lion lovey, and I never knew how sick I would feel when you cried in your carseat and I couldn't stop to comfort you. I didn't realize how much I would cheer for every new milestone you would make, even if it was just the moment you finally realized how to grab things with both hands or just discovering your toes.

Every pediatrician appointment I am still amazed and grateful for that scale which indicates how big and strong you are growing... and it is all because of me.

I did not know that your first cold would break my heart, or that I would stay up all night just to watch you struggle to breathe.

There are so many things I have experienced with you that all my adventures will never replace. I didn't know that blowing air on your feet would make you laugh, and I didn't know you would be so ticklish on your feet. I didn't know that your Lion King Simba would make you smile, and I didn't know that all I would ever want in this world is to be the perfect mom for you.

Of all the adventures I have ever experienced, being able to raise you has already completely changed my life, and I am so blessed to have you. I can't explain how much you melt my heart, but I hope one day you will know that before I had you, I never knew how to love until I met you.


​A King

<![CDATA[The Past]]>Wed, 26 Aug 2015 21:20:21 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/the-pastI've never been good at erasing things completely out of my life.

While there are things I'd rather not think about, share with anyone, or bring up again, I still can't bring myself to delete things as if they never happened. I have pictures I can't make myself look at and memories I hide from my thoughts, but somewhere, there are little reminders of who I was at one point in my life.

As I begin the start of this journey of sharing life with my son, I wanted to post the memory of what this site was like before it now began.

<![CDATA[´╗┐Things don't always go as planned, but life ends up perfect in the end.]]>Wed, 26 Aug 2015 21:09:15 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/things-dont-always-go-as-planned-but-life-ends-up-perfect-in-the-endIt's August of 2015.

A year and a half after my last post, and almost four years since the very beginning of this site. If only I wrote more posts throughout the years I could look back on how my life has changed, but even looking through the few words and paragraphs I did take the time to write, I am happy I have something to look back on to reflect.

I never anticipated my life would be as it is now. It has everything I love, but didn't go as I had planned... and for that I am extremely grateful.

I have always built my life around planning... planning exactly how I wanted things to go. But even as everyone says that it doesn't go as planned, I secretly smiled in disbelief because I thought that I could make it exactly what I wanted, when I wanted it.

I was wrong.

Right now, I have everything I want. Four years ago when I started this site, I did not think this was what I wanted. Time changes everything... your hopes, dreams, goals, even the things that motivates you to achieve different things. Time moves forward and changes everything in its path.

I am incredibly blessed to say that I am sitting here writing this post from my son's room. My handsome, perfect, little man, who holds every piece of my heart in his tiny almost 6-week-old little hands is laying in my lap as I type.

I love this little boy with every single ounce of me and although he is not yet two months old, I can't possibly imagine my life now without him.

I thought about erasing my previous posts and restarting my site from the beginning of this new journey, but when my son is old enough to read and understand, I hope to teach and share with him a slight glimpse of how life doesn't always go as planned, but you can always have exactly what you want.

From now on, my life does not revolve around me making choices to better myself or to achieve goals or dreams that only lead ME in a new direction. Everything I hope for, everything I dream of, every goal I have for myself involves this tiny heartbeat that I helped create. Everything I write about, everything I plan for, and every day begins and ends with this perfect little boy that I am so incredibly lucky to call mine. My future and my life are no longer the first thing on my mind.

He is.

In a previous post, I mentioned not knowing who would be listening or who would even care to read about life from my mind. I honestly had no idea that the person that I wanted to share my words with were to this little man.

I never thought anyone would want to read about the life of A King, which is why it took so long to put words down on a blog to maybe read about years later. I thought there would be nobody out there on this world-wide Web that I would have the direct benefit of inspiring. I always had an ultimate goal of inspiring people, even just one person. But I had no idea that this one person I could inspire would be part of me.

From now on, I will write about my life and everything in it; Not to just have an outlet for when my mind wanders, not for the hopes of re-branding myself to gain readership or followers or even friends, but so my son can look back on where things all began...


A King
<![CDATA[Someday...]]>Fri, 21 Feb 2014 05:27:27 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/thu-feb-20-2014
Growing up, I used to think that "someday" never really ever comes... But through many long years, I've learned from experience that "someday" only comes at the right time.

In 8th grade, I met the man I wanted to marry. Only I didn't quite know it at the time. I was absolutely in love with his charm, careless attitude, the way he could always make someone laugh, and his ability to always make someone feel special... even if only for a short time. Oh did he have a way with words... And I was so naive.

That charming boy who stole my heart for the first time, even stole my first kiss... of which I would never forget. I still have some notes he wrote me, which should have been long gone by now with everything else I have thrown away in the last 11 and a half years. This boy had a habit of writing bold statements by only the first letters, and at the time, god only knew what this meant to this boy: I.W.F.I.L.W.A.G.K.I.T.....
I will fall in love with Alyssa Ginnett King in time.

At 13 years old, I didn't understand. And I didn't quite know that I wouldn't understand for almost 12 years. I thought for sure "in time" meant "someday".... and "someday" never really ever came.

Although we remained friends, we went our separate ways... and today, it doesn't even matter which ways we went.

They always say "the rest is history", and this truly sums up how life puts all the puzzle pieces back together. No one really knows why we meet the people we meet. It is either because they are meant to change our lives... or we are meant to change theirs.

This boy changed my life at 13. Who knew at 25, I could be the one changing his.

In 2 weeks we will continue to make memories... together, traveling to New York City; a place I had always dreamed of going. No matter what the future holds, I am so lucky to have his hand to hold and so blessed to be his girl.

There is no need to rush. If "someday" is meant to be, it will happen... In the right time, with the right person, for the best reason...

A King
<![CDATA[Wherever you go, Go with all your heart.]]>Sun, 23 Jun 2013 22:44:45 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/wherever-you-go-go-with-all-your-heartOver 5 months later, and I look back on my posts and my home page and what my life was like months ago. Not a lot has changed, but everything is different. I have a new home, I chose a new direction, I led myself down a different path. And I can't bring myself to change my homepage or rewrite my "about me" page, though I am not exactly the same as I was just months ago. One day, when I have accepted my choices, I will change those words and rewrite who I am. For now, you can read about the new me in this post.

I am truly amazed by my ability, but continuously question my logic, to just wake up and change my mind and my direction when things were already perfectly right. I can't explain my reasoning or my choices but all I can do is continue the ride with an incredible smile knowing that somewhere along the path this was exactly the way it was supposed to happen. I trust fate in knowing that whenever I have stepped into complete darkness there has always been something solid to stand on and an open hand that is always willing to teach me to fly.

I have a desire to begin to chase the things I want, without knowing exactly what it is I want.

A few months ago, I wanted a change. Not knowing what that meant, I quickly packed up my life and moved alone into a one bedroom to chase the independence I still think I need. While I have always continuously thrived off of the stress of change, I am still learning to accept my decisions for what they're worth. I can't say I made a mistake but I can say that I still do not know what gave me the desire to step into complete darkness when everything had played out exactly how I envisioned. I got everything I wanted, and in the end, that wasn't enough.

I look back on my New Years Resolutions, and one in particular stands out to me... "Get a Fresh Start"... For what it's worth, I have accomplished that goal in a different way, without knowing this would be the way that fresh start would begin. I no longer strive so desperately to move to a new city, for I have already started a new life on my own. That "once in a lifetime" opportunity will come someday, but for now, this "once in a lifetime" feeling of strength, by becoming okay with the silence, being alone, having no one to catch my fall, and accepting the feeling beyond my comfort zone, is enough for me. I am learning how to be happy and content by myself, something I always found in someone else. This fresh start has been a learning experience, and something I know I will look back on and pride myself in having the ability to swim into open water, not knowing where the next shore will be.

As incredibly hard it is to share my life with the world, for fear of judgement, I feel better sharing my thoughts knowing someone in this world might be feeling the exact same way.

Within my resolutions, I stated that 2013 will be the year, the year for something new. Although I had no idea this is what I meant, I am confident that life always works out the way it is meant to be.

A King

<![CDATA[Forget About the Past, Dream of the Future]]>Tue, 01 Jan 2013 21:50:38 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/forget-about-the-past-dream-of-the-futureEvery year, no matter who we are, we all have one thing in common at the very end of the year, and beginning of the new... We write or even just think about our New Years resolutions; Our dreams of what we will achieve or who we will become in the next year. I want to share my New Years resolutions for those who might be inspired to create something similar for their own.

1. Self-Brand Myself
I hope to start off my resolutions by developing a brand for myself. As part of creating an outlet for my creativity, I hope to create a name for myself in the competitive world throughout this world wide web. We all know thousands of consumer products, commodities, and celebrities, but the ones we remember most, and the ones we buy, are those brands we can relate with, or those who have developed a name for themselves. Who are you, if the world doesn't know you? 

2. Become More Active
Yes, I am pretty sure this is one of the top resolutions for most people. But for me- I am really hoping to become more active in the community, engage in different environments and be a part of more surroundings. I hope to join some sports leagues, attend some classes and be a part of more opportunities to learn new hobbies. In college, the opportunities for these things were so easy, intramural sports, clubs, and the already attending classes, but in the real world, finding these opportunities outside of our daily work routine becomes something you have to chase down. I hope to find these opportunities around me.  

3. Get a Fresh Start
I know this seems vague, but it encompasses a wide array of dreams. I have lived in Washington my entire life. To some- this is not very long. To me- this is far too long for someone who dreams of picking up and starting a new life in every city I step foot into. I am so inspired by those who have the story to tell of moving to a new state. I ask far too many questions to those who have got that opportunity, and look down at the ground when asked "Do you never want to leave?" because of course, I do. I have had the incredible opportunity to travel to new places almost every month, and have some pretty amazing trips in my past, but it is just not the same of picking up and moving to somewhere new. I thoroughly believe that "once in a lifetime" chances have to start somewhere. Why not now? 

I know throughout the month, and even throughout the year, I will have many more resolutions to write in the books, but for now... 2013 will be the year; The year for something new.

<![CDATA[Words to Live by]]>Sun, 30 Dec 2012 17:06:18 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/words-to-live-by“Always continue the climb. It’s possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are & willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it." -Unknown]]><![CDATA[What Do I Want?]]>Sun, 23 Dec 2012 06:23:13 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/what-do-i-wantEvery day I sit down to write a post, I second guess my every word. As I have already mentioned before, in my one year late post, I wonder what makes my life so interesting that people will want to read my story? So as I sit here to write this post today, I reflect. What do I want to share? What do I want to gain from talking to the world?

I want to inspire.

I want to lead.

I want to influence.

Everyone has a story to share. However, besides sharing the simple life of A King, I want to be able to teach the world about my passions; about my love for making a difference. I want to inspire someone to see the world differently, or see themselves differently. I want to lead by example and push at least one person in a direction to make a change, or chase a dream. I want to influence someone and have a lasting effect in their lives. It doesn't matter to me if I influence only one person in this world... At least I made a difference in their life.

So where do I start?

I have a passion for learning; for being challenged, so as I share what makes A King, I hope you will share insight as to how you feel about my post, my life, or how I can learn from you. While I hope to inspire, lead, and influence, I also hope to BE inspired, led, and influenced.

Please share.

A King
<![CDATA[The Duo : Bella]]>Mon, 29 Oct 2012 05:59:38 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/the-duo-bella
Bella and Leo work together to push our buttons. Leo will push things on the floor for Bella to eat, or spread around the house to make a mess while we are away. Which is exactly why I could not start my story without sharing who these two personalities really are.

Bella is the baby. While Leo may be younger, Bella gets her way every time. Yes - I know this is the incorrect way to train a dog, but when I don't have the patience to listen to the pitiful whimpering cries asking for her heater to be turned on, a few extra kibbles, or to go to Starbucks, I tend to resort to giving in to what she wants. Yes - she is completely obsessed with the word Starbucks. Think twice about saying it, unless you are really planning to take her. Because I promise... she will not give up on wanting to go.

From the moment I saw that 1 pound, less than 8-week-old chihuahua, she had my heart. She is a part of my every day, and a main part of my story.
<![CDATA[The Duo : Leo]]>Sun, 28 Oct 2012 05:54:43 GMThttp://www.alwaysaking.com/follow-my-heart/the-duo-leo
My story begins with the love of my life, and our two companions that make every day both rewarding and chaotic. Yes - The duo can make or break our peace and quiet after a very long day or week. 
Leo is both lazy and adventurous. At times, he can be this sweet and sleeping ball of fur, then the next minute he is chewing up your headphones, breaking your favorite glass vase, pushing your coffee cup off the table, ripping up your furniture and carpet, or biting your toes in the middle of the night. It is completely fitting to share the duo beginning with the biggest trouble maker...
He will occasionally pop up in posts, as he is both photogenic, and a brat.  :)